Relationships can sometimes be something of a challenge. If you’ve been dating a guy for awhile and you’ve fallen into a predictable routine you may start to feel as though you are being taken advantage of. Many women feel this when they realize that their once attentive man, now rarely calls them anymore. As women we like to feel close to our boyfriends and for us that means being in touch often. If you are faced with a situation where he just doesn’t seem to have the drive or desire to talk as much, it can be frustrating. There are certain things you should and shouldn’t be doing when your boyfriend won’t call you.
The most important thing to remember when your boyfriend doesn’t call is to not panic. If you haven’t heard from him for several days you may immediately assume he’s decided to find himself a new girlfriend. The chances of that being the cause of his silence are minimal. There are many reasons why men don’t call their girlfriends, but simply moving on to a new relationship isn’t one of them. Put your mind to rest and stop thinking of the worst case scenarios.
Some men intentionally don’t call for a simple reason. They want to gauge your reaction. Many of us have been guilty of abusing our boyfriend’s phone number if we haven’t heard from him by the time we expected to. We call and then hang up if he doesn’t answer. When he doesn’t answer a few times a sense of rejection may set in. That pushes us to then call and leave voice mail asking him to call back as soon as possible. When your boyfriend does realize how many times you called and then listens to your pleading voice in the message you left, he’ll see you as one thing. It’s not the girlfriend who loves him so much she must hear from him. No. He’ll see you as desperate and dependent on him for affection.
If you’ve made it clear through your words and your actions that you are completely and utterly in love with your boyfriend, he may start to see you as someone who won’t ever leave him. When someone views you that way, they may start to take advantage of you. Not calling, not contacting you and ignoring you soon become acceptable because they know regardless of how much time passes before they take a moment to reach out to you, you’ll still be there waiting.
The very best approach you can take when your boyfriend won’t call you is to take his number off speed dial and go out and have fun. If he fully expects you to come searching for him, and you don’t, he’ll immediately wonder what you’re thinking. It’s also imperative that you don’t answer the minute he does call you. Let him be the one who has to leave a voice mail and take a bit to return the call. When you do finally speak with him, don’t drill him about where he’s been or why he hasn’t called. If he apologizes for not being in touch and tells you the age old excuse that he’s been busy with work, tell him it’s no problem. Briefly explain that you’ve been swamped too. End the call quickly and tell him you’ll talk soon.
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